When a loved member of our family or good friend or mate dies, we can wonder as to how we are we going to cope or what the days, weeks and months ahead will be like.
There will be people who are there for us, but we will also feel the need to be by ourselves to remember and to grieve in that space which is uniquely ours.
Some talk about the stages of grief - denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. The important thing to remember is that each person grieving will do so in a way that truly belongs to them. There is no 'one size fits all' when it comes to loss in our lives. What 'works' for one, won't for another.
Life doesn't return to normal as the death of a family member or friend causes us to redefine life in a new and profound way.
We, at Ninness Funeral Home, hope the following quotations will offer a helpful perspective as you enter into this significant transition in your life.
“Grief does not change you. It reveals you.”
(John Green, The Fault in Our Stars)
When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares. -Henri Nouwen
You give yourself permission to grieve by recognizing the need for grieving. Grieving is the natural way of working through the loss of a love. Grieving is not weakness nor absence of faith. Grieving is as natural as crying when you are hurt, sleeping when you are tired or sneezing when your nose itches. It is nature's way of healing a broken heart. - Doug Manning
For some moments in life there are no words. - David Seltzer, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory
"The pain passes, but the beauty remains". --Pierre Auguste Renoir (1841-1919)
“Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.”
( José N. Harris, MI VIDA: A Story of Faith, Hope and Love)
“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.”
(Leo Tolstoy)
“So it’s true, when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love.”
(E.A. Bucchianeri, Brushstrokes of a Gadfly)
“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.”
(Elisabeth Kübler-Ross)
“When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as
the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.”
(Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet)
“Relationships take up energy; letting go of them, psychiatrists theorize, entails mental work. When you lose someone you were close to, you have to reassess your picture of the world and your place in it. The more your identity was wrapped up with the deceased, the more difficult the loss.”
(Meghan O'Rourke)
“Grieving doesn't make you imperfect. It makes you human.”
(Sarah Dessen, The Truth About Forever)
There will be people who are there for us, but we will also feel the need to be by ourselves to remember and to grieve in that space which is uniquely ours.
Some talk about the stages of grief - denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. The important thing to remember is that each person grieving will do so in a way that truly belongs to them. There is no 'one size fits all' when it comes to loss in our lives. What 'works' for one, won't for another.
Life doesn't return to normal as the death of a family member or friend causes us to redefine life in a new and profound way.
We, at Ninness Funeral Home, hope the following quotations will offer a helpful perspective as you enter into this significant transition in your life.
“Grief does not change you. It reveals you.”
(John Green, The Fault in Our Stars)
When we honestly ask ourselves which person in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving advice, solutions, or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a warm and tender hand. The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares. -Henri Nouwen
You give yourself permission to grieve by recognizing the need for grieving. Grieving is the natural way of working through the loss of a love. Grieving is not weakness nor absence of faith. Grieving is as natural as crying when you are hurt, sleeping when you are tired or sneezing when your nose itches. It is nature's way of healing a broken heart. - Doug Manning
For some moments in life there are no words. - David Seltzer, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory
"The pain passes, but the beauty remains". --Pierre Auguste Renoir (1841-1919)
“Tears shed for another person are not a sign of weakness. They are a sign of a pure heart.”
( José N. Harris, MI VIDA: A Story of Faith, Hope and Love)
“Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.”
(Leo Tolstoy)
“So it’s true, when all is said and done, grief is the price we pay for love.”
(E.A. Bucchianeri, Brushstrokes of a Gadfly)
“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you will learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.”
(Elisabeth Kübler-Ross)
“When you part from your friend, you grieve not;
For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as
the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.”
(Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet)
“Relationships take up energy; letting go of them, psychiatrists theorize, entails mental work. When you lose someone you were close to, you have to reassess your picture of the world and your place in it. The more your identity was wrapped up with the deceased, the more difficult the loss.”
(Meghan O'Rourke)
“Grieving doesn't make you imperfect. It makes you human.”
(Sarah Dessen, The Truth About Forever)
